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First Impressions: They Count By Robert Berendt You never get a second chance to make a first impression. So consider now how to make your first meeting a good one.
ur first meeting with a person may not have much meaning at all. If it's likely we won't see the person again or if the meeting is fleeting, we usually are not concerned about first impressions. However, if we are meeting a potential business partner, investor, possible romantic partner, friend or relative, we are likely to meet this person again and again. Involvement that carries on into the future is often set in motion by the first impression we give. Since we do not always know what the future holds, it is good advice to treat each meeting as though it could have an impact on our future.
This salesman was gifted, and one of his most important talents was his ability to leave a positive first impression with people. I asked him about his approach, and his comment was that everyone he spoke with was a potential customer -- either then and there or in the future, so he treated each one as though he or she was a customer. First impressions really counted, and Grover was an expert at meeting people. He always left a very good impression of himself. We could all take lessons from him. Grover has since died, but the impression he left on me is indelible. We should treat everyone as a potential and future son or daughter of God. Please understand that trying to make a good impression is not the same as "putting on a good front" in a hypocritical way. Our goal should be to be truly good people and then not make mistakes to make people think otherwise. Here are some tips from Grover. Grover's tips Make consistent eye contact without staring. There is something about a person whose eyes shift a lot that makes us feel they do not really care about us or that they are somehow nervous. Eyes have a lot to do with communication and can convey unspoken messages. Obviously, we need to be careful about what we interpret "eye-talk" to be saying, but there is no denying that we gain something through the eyes.
Since people can also feel like they're being ignored if you continually answer calls, the best solution may be to set your answering machine to answer after fewer rings when you have guests. When you are eating a meal, chew with your mouth closed. If you are not sharing a meal, do not be chewing things. When I see a person who is continuously chewing gum or chewing food with his mouth open or closed -- I notice it. It seems especially unladylike for women to be chewing something in an ongoing and conspicuous manner. Men can come across as crude and unsophisticated when they wolf down food or are constantly working their jaws.
Be on time for appointments. We all understand delays and circumstances that interfere with us being on time. When the reason is clear, nobody really minds. But when you are trying to make a good impression, the need to be punctual is more important. There are many situations in Scripture that demand an eye towards punctuality. People feel that you respect them when you are on time.
Complaints about government, the price of gas or anything or anybody else do not belong in first impressions. Nobody likes a grouch, complainer or whiner. Jude 16 explains that grumblers and complainers walk in their own lusts. They point fingers at others, but usually they have major needs themselves that should be addressed. Clothing is important -- be presentable and neat. Appearance does leave an impression of the inner person. True, appearances can be deceiving. And there may be times you may not be able to help your appearance. But generally speaking, when we go out in public, we should reflect self-respect, as well as respect for others, by paying attention to our dress. Of course, hair, shoes and all other parts of our appearance are included. See 1 Timothy 2:9-10. Although this scripture is addressed to women, the general idea applies to all of us.
Refrain from inviting a new contact into a cluttered and untidy workspace. Some believe a cluttered office reveals a cluttered mind. Your impression All of these are nonverbal communication points that shout a loud message about who and what you are as a person. We joke a little when we say, "It is better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." But Proverbs 17:28 agrees: "Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace."
Once an impression is formed, it is hard to dislodge. We would not want to dislodge a good impression, but a bad one sticks like glue. There is a huge advantage when we give a good impression of ourselves to others. But it is a big mistake if we carelessly give a poor one. If a good impression is the one you want to leave, make sure it is good -- it does count. Jesus advised us not to judge by appearances (John 7:24). And we should do our best to follow His instruction, since we do not know someone else's heart. Understanding the impact of first impressions can start things on a positive note. Be aware of these points, so you can avoid making a bad impression. For more tips on how to be successful in life, request our free booklet . Copyright 2009 by United Church of God, an International Association All rights reserved. |
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