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				Letters to the Editor Preparing for Pregnancy You have great resources and I wanted to take the time to say thanks for the helpful information. -- R. Carter How to Make Peace With Your Mother-in-Law I just wanted to say I thought your article was wonderful. Having studied MIL-DIL relationships along with my work with women on this specific issue, I found your responses accurate and helpful. Thank you for getting the msg out to women that they can make this relationship better. -- D. Brann, Ph.D. What an incredibly offensive article on the daughter/mother-in-law relationship! I could have read the same nonsense in Cosmo or Redbook Magazine, certainly not from a magazine that is supposed to promote mature, Chrisitan values. This whole article speaks from the wounded daughter-in-law's point of view against the dottering, intrusive, selfish, dimwitted mother-in-law! How dare you feed into this wordly, carnal point of view. You are supposed to be teaching young women to be graceful, appreciative, giving, understanding and loving daughters, wives and mothers. Where was the Biblical example of Ruth's love and respect for her husband's mother? Where are the Proverbs 31 examples of the virtuous woman? In the entire article, ONE Biblical reference is made. ONE! And here is how it is used: "Romans 12:18 tells us we should live peaceably with everyone, and in-laws are no exception. What follows are five of the most common complaints about mothers-in-law and suggestions for making peace." Rather than using Biblical examples of love and patience and holding others with higher esteem than ourselves; of utilizing the fruit of God's Spirit, we now cite doctors and family counselors and psychologists. Is this how we teach young women to be Godly now? I had a wonderful relationship with my mother-in-law. I honored her as the mother of my husband, the grandmother to my children. She was the source of wisdom and strength and patience that I aspired to as a wife and mother! Now I am a mother-in-law and I see my beautiful daughter-in-law struggling through some of the same things I did at her age. Do we agree all the time? No! But we certainly never needed any of this mamby pamby, carnal nonsense you're dishing out in this article. Go back to teaching young wives to be good Christian women! Mature Christian women know, if we concentrate on THAT ... getting along with a mother-in-law doesn't need to be addressed in its own article! -- J.B. Dear J.B. I am so sorry you were offended by this article. You are correct that the article is from the daughter-in-law's point of view, but it addresses situations that affect many young wives. The article certainly does not speak to all relationships with mother-in-laws in the world, but is relevant for many. It is so wonderful that you had such a great relationship with your mother-in-law, but that is not true for many others I know. The article addresses releasing anger, forgiving and seeing things from the mother-in-laws point of view. It also talks about making peace. These are all Christian values. The comments of professionals are in no way turning away from our Christian walk with God and Christ, but taking sound advice from those who deal with such things on a daily basis. There is often wisdom that comes from their experience. As Christians we should seek out wisdom from whomever we can glean it. If we can get that wisdom from those around us it is wonderful, but that is not always possible for everyone. Also mentioned in this article is the booklet . This magazine gives additional scriptural advice for relationships. Thank you for writing. I will share your thoughts with the author. My best wishes for your magazine. I hope it all goes well for you. -- O.K. from Peru Some feedback messages are edited for space and/or clarity. Copyright 2011 by United Church of God, an International Association All rights reserved.

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