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For Men: Grief, and How to Deal With It By Graemme Marshall "A time to cry and a time to laugh, a time to grieve and a time to dance" (Ecclesiastes 3:4, New Living Translation). When the time comes for grieving, how should Christian men deal with it?
rief is the emotion and pain we feel in response to significant losses in our lives. Grief counselors list the following as some common precursors of grief:
But probably the most disturbing loss is the experience of bereavement: the death of a person who is significant to us. Bereavement grief This grief is the physical and psychological reaction to the changes forced upon us by a loved one's death. We must then find a different way of going about our lives, coping with the gap, and facing many unforeseen changes.
Bereavement is not only a major loss in itself, but it often sets off a chain reaction of other losses too:
Grief is a journey that demands a preparedness to experience much sad emotion. It calls for courage and daring to walk a new path, and to adapt to new challenges. Every person will grieve in his or her own particular and individual way. And there is a difference in how men and women tend to grieve. Women generally grieve more publicly, and it is helpful to understand how the sexes differ. Women and men grieve differently
Men exhibit differences in grieving because of dissimilar biology, brain function and hormone systems, and from the stereotype entrenched in society that "real men don't cry". How men tend to respond to grief They are generally not as self-caring or help-seeking as women. Men pay less attention to the initial emotional pain than women, until those around them seem "safe" and things appear "in order." Men often distance themselves from the emotional content of difficulties or threatening situations as part of the masculine trait of protectiveness toward others. Men tend to need more time to connect with grief emotions. They often need privacy, to be alone, before facing and experiencing emotional pain. Being generally less verbal than women, men prefer to "mull things over" and "think things through."
Men often respond negatively to the pressure to be more public in their grieving than with what they personally feel comfortable. They usually cope through activities, action and "mulling things over," while women do this by talking and crying out their grief. Men benefit from the company of other men (or working alongside them) -- not necessarily by verbal exchanges, but just by other men being present who care without intruding. How grieving men can best help themselves
Men can move more healthfully through the grieving process by:
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